I suck at accountability

by emily on May 7, 2012

You would think that as a career consultant and coach, I’d be really great with my own time management, structure and accountability.  But you want in on a dirty little secret of mine?  When it’s just up to me, I actually suck at it.

This weekend I had all kinds of plans about how much work I was going to get done.  Oh yeah, baby, I piled that to-do list high!  And you want to know what I got done this weekend?  Absolutely nothing.  Not one thing on my to do list was accomplished.

I did a great job of procrastinating (thanks to a handy dandy bottle of wine, social media, and catching up on tons of tv).  I only left the house on Saturday to get a latte.  Other than that I was lying around.  On the couch, on the bed, on the bench.  Everytime I thought about sitting down to do my work, I had a sudden and desperate urge to do the dishes, or some similar, mundane life chore that could’ve been accomplished at any other time besides the present moment.

I imagine that you are like this too.  In fact, it is one of the top reasons that the coaching industry is thriving: people suck at accountability.

I suck at it (when it comes to my own life).  And you know what I’ve learned through my experience as both a coach and a human being?  The more you want something, the harder it is to take action.  The closer we get to what we want, the more we procrastinate and avoid it.  The harder we fight and struggle against taking action.

You would think that the more we want something, the harder we work to get it, but that would be far too logical.  And when there is something I want in my life, I guarantee you I am not thinking about it from a logical perspective.  Fear, anxiety and doubt are powerful forces.  They show up as resistance and procrastination.  And while it may feel more comfortable to slip into, “I don’t feel like it, ” “This is too hard,” “I’ll do it tomorrow,” I can assure you, it is a devious and manipulative trap that keeps you (and me, all of us) stuck.

If you haven’t already read it, there is an amazing book called “The War Of Art” by Steven Pressfield.  And if you have already read it, I’d suggest you make re-reading it a habit.  Either way, here’s a great quote from the book about the power of procrastination:

“The most pernicious aspect of procrastination is that it can become a habit.  We don’t just put off our lives today; we put them off till our deathbed.

Never forget: This very moment, we can change our lives.  There never was a moment, and never will be, when we are without the power to alter our destiny.  This second, we can turn the tables on Resistance.

This second, we can sit down and do our work.”

So here’s the thing.  When I am left to my own devices, I know I never work as hard or as efficiently as I could.  I put things off, make excuses, and am an artful procrastinator.  (Years I go I coined the term “procrasturbation,” which, I’m sure you can figure out what it means).

That’s why it is so important that I don’t leave myself to my own devices. I don’t want to, in Pressfield’s words, put my life off until my death bed.  It’s imperative to break free of procrastination.

Here are a few steps to doing it:

First is to create publicly known deadlines.  For example – I publish a new blog once a week (sometimes it’s Sunday, sometimes it’s Monday).  But the main reason I keep to that schedule is because I’ve declared it publicly.  I want to get it done because I know other people are expecting me to deliver.

Second is surrounding myself with other people who get shit done.  If you want to break out of bad habits, connect with people who have the kind of good habits you want.  My highly productive, happy, fit friends inspire me to get my shit together.  If they can do it, so can I.

Third is to work with a coach.  For the first 2 years of running my business I had high level personal mentors.  By high level I mean motherfucking expensive.  It pushed me to get results that I never would’ve demanded of myself if it were just up to me.  It would have been easy for me to give up when things were hard.  But because I was already committed to working with my coach, I HAD to find ways to keep going.  And I’m so glad I was on the hook not only with accountability, but the high price tag pushed me to hustle like I had never hustled before.  I never could’ve done it so quickly, creatively or efficiently on my own.

Fourth is to take time off.  This weekend I didn’t make time to just chillax.  And so I rebelled against my full to do list by doing lots and lots of nothing.  If I had just scheduled one day this weekend as a designated non-work day, I could’ve recharged without feeling bad about it, and been a lot more productive when I came back to work.

Fifth is awareness.  Bad habits have a way of sneaking back in when we stop paying attention.  I used to think one day I’d get to the point where I was just productive and happy, and it would be easy.  The truth is, choosing to be accountable and productive is an ongoing struggle, and that’s ok.  Just do what you need to do to put yourself on the hook.

Leave a comment.  I want to know how you overcome procrastination.  Resistance is pretty sneaky. What motivates you to stay accountable?  How do you keep yourself on the hook when your resistance creeps up?  Discuss below!


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