My epic screw up

by emily on April 15, 2014

You know that time you screwed up?  Like majorly?  Like a screw up of EPIC PROPORTIONS?

It was super painful, and all-around sucked ballz…?

In the bad way?

Those experiences provide you one of two choices:

Keep repeating the same behavior that created the situation in the first place.

Or learn from it.

This year, I’m proud to say, I learned from my own epic (and painful) screw up…TAXES.

I’m posting this year (success! better choices! Yay!) and that other one (bad choices, painful consequences).

Because we all screw up.  But it’s an opportunity to learn, grow, and make better choices.  In this case, the lesson I took to heart was all about better time management.

What lesson are you currently learning (or being reminded of)?  Share your experience in the comments.

And don’t forget to file that (damn) return!

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Too talented to ignore

by emily on April 8, 2014

Last week’s blog post was about ignoring the advice “It can’t be done.”  And I firmly believe that you can create whatever opportunity you envision (even if no one else is on board with that vision).
But there’s something that I didn’t mention last week that is critical to your success.

You have to be excellent.

You must be willing to do the hard work required to make it happen.

This point was brought up during last week’s talk on the World Acting Summit, of which I was honored to be asked to participate.  During a talk between Paul Barry, Angela Peters, Steve Trister and myself, this topic was raised:

Can an actor do it all?  Can s/he create opportunities for to play roles that no one else is on board with?

The simple answer is YES.  Of course, absolutely yes.

But the full answer includes this critical ingredient:

The willingness to put in the work.

Yesterday I was reading The Hollywood Reporter’s recent article about Kevin Spacey.  What a unique and interesting career path he has created!  From New York theatre, to leading unconventional leading roles, to the artistic director of London’s Old Vic theatre, to a ground-breaking original series deal with Netflix.

Spacey does his own thing.

The article mentions the difficulty he had crossing over into leading man roles.  Sam Mendes had to fight the studio in order to cast Spacey in the title role of American Beauty.  The studio felt he was a supporting actor, not a star.  But Sam Mendes fought to cast Kevin Spacey.


According to the article, “Spacey simply was too talented and too driven for Hollywood to ignore.”

Too talented and too driven.

You can be driven.  You can be talented.  But each of these attributes will only take you so far.  When you combine both, you become unstoppable.

excellenceSo, to fully flesh out last week’s rallying call to carve your own path, let me impart this next piece of advice on your path to success:

In everything you do, be excellent.

Don’t half-ass it or make excuses.  Don’t offer any less than your best.

You may fall flat on your face.  You might not get the results you want the first time around.

Get up, dust off, and give your best to everything you do.

That includes every part of your life.  Even the day job you secretly hate, or the day to day errands you wish you could pawn off on somebody else.

One of my business coaches, Suzanne Evans, always says, “How you do anything is how you do everything.”

Bring excellence to every endeavor (not just the ones you like).

Be so incredibly good at whatever it is you do, that it simply cannot be ignored.

In case you missed it – the World Acting Summit continues for the rest of this week.  It is packed with excellent expert advice for actors (and it’s free!).  Check it out here.

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